Dads are the answer...idiots

You know it has become rare to find people in my generation, millennials or Gen Y, that were raised in a dual parent household where both parents are their birthparents. Heck it's rare for me to find individuals that are just raised in a dual parent household! Tangent, I know why it's called Gen Y, You're Screwed. I mean divorce rates skyrocket and unmarried parents are a plenty. All this while females are being told "You're bosses and you don't need no man". The messages are everywhere, and it's imbedded in our psyche that we are always going to be alone. It's maddening. Young kids are missing out on crucial knowledge, experience, and an opposing point of view. It's plainly obvious that Y is screwed.

How many young men learned how to change oil from their dad's, show of hand? My hand is down because my dad wasn't there. I missed out on all of his mechanical knowledge. I also missed out on his carpentry skills which always looked so much fun. These skills are just part of his ocean of knowledge he could've passed on to me and my family if they stayed together. I would've been a more complete male then I am right now because he could fix pretty much anything, I can't. I have had to learn from my friends or freakin YouTube videos! Man, I have screwed some things up attempting something from a 3-minute video I saw. Dads can push their children to keep going and never giving up. Sharing their experiences as a child and how they overcame problems or how their children can learn from their mistakes. I am not saying all dads are hands-on blue-collar guys, but even the white-collar fathers out there can pass on the things they've learned from tech or sales. Anything. Anything at all that can help a young child navigate this relentlessly abusive world.

I just realized that my communism blog was just an incoherent mess with no structure. I don't care. Keeping it that way. Might've learned better if I was a complete person that had both parents in my life. The small number of experiences I had during the visitation had an everlasting effect, mainly how feminine I was being raised by a woman. Those bonding moments a boy has with his male figure head can help build him into the man he wants to become. Without one he can become feral. Leech onto anyone that spews anything that seems like a good message, like Andrew Tate. His message of a man should breed with as many women as possible was the driving force behind this blog in the first place. I know nothing of the guy but that got under my skin. I agree with that as long as you are in EVERY kids life that you bring in. Have a harem! But don't just leave all the children with the mothers. You will rob them of everything you can give them. Everything you can guide them through. All the interactions that build them into the masculine individual you claim to be. Everything a mom cannot bestow onto a young man.

I am the opposing point of view in my marriage. Shocking. Most of what my wife says or believes I typically hold the counter argument. I think it is perfect for our child. This means that she is going to be growing up hearing 2 views of the world so she can choose which side she sees as the best or even combine them. I was only ever introduced to 1 view which led me to picking the opposite out of protest. You might see this as screwing a child up but all you have to do is explain your positions, kids aren't idiots. Just me. When a child is told "this is the way of the world" their whole life they get shocked when they hear the something different. The counter starts sounding appealing because it's like the forbidden fruit. Just like Eve children take the bite. I'm not only talking about with me but also most of my friends and even people I was with in the Army. I am a rigged jerk at times especially with discipline, my wife is the opposite. This counterbalance helps her be a bit firmer with her judgements while helping me be more flexible. You shouldn't want your children to be just carbon copies of you. This doesn't promote growth or help them become an individual. You may leave an imprint in the worst way. Single parents don't have the counterweight to help them with this.

I was raised as a child of divorce. Duh. I'm a guy that was raised by a single mom from the time I was 5. My earliest memories are actually of the whole freakin divorce. I was always envious of the kids that actually had their dad's around because I didn't. But then as I grew up, I noticed there was a shift, more kids of divorce were appearing. There were more kids being raised by single moms because of divorce or moms that were never married. It became rare to find any kids that had both birthparents still married to each other. From elementary school to graduating high school the shift was insane. Divorce became rampant and always left children without a father because I can't remember anyone dads that got custody of the kids. Children need their fathers. Men can provide boys with a masculine role model and girls with a protector while both get a figure head. Women cannot fill this role themselves, and men wont either. It takes 2 parents to raise a child properly. But whatever this is just my belief and what I've seen and experienced. All is just this idiot's opinion.